How To Discourage A Fashion Style Without Hurting Kid’s Egos

Children are creatures of imagination and creativity. They are also easily insulted and do not know how to appropriately take criticism. If you are less than thrilled with the way your child has been dressing or trying to dress, it is best to address the matter very carefully keeping your child’s feelings in mind.

Do not use harsh words when explaining your child’s fashion disaster. Children tend to feel emotions more often than adults and do not have the know-how to suppress any of them, nor will they even attempt to. Using harsh words only shows your child that you disapprove of their choices, not that you are trying to help them. Avoid using words as “ridiculous,” “silly” or “stupid” as it is a reflection on your child and they will take it to heart.

Rather than insult your child’s fashion sense, gear them toward more appropriate wear. If your child likes bold colors such as hot pink or cobalt blue, teach them that one bold item is enough to make a statement. A great way to teach your child about fashion is to take them shopping with you. Allow them to assist in picking out their clothes and show them what coordinates with the items that they choose. This will instill the matching principle and teach that not all items will match and clothing is about matching or coordinating.

When your child successfully puts an outfit together that looks good, compliment him or her. Praise is considered spoken gold coming from your mouth. Children live for praise and they like to know that they have done something pleasing. Do not go overboard on the praise, but definitely show your child that they have done well. Also, continue to instill fashion sense into your children. Let them experiment with different colors and patterns and allow them to choose their wardrobe and express individuality.

Children have egos that are very easily bruised. When trying to instill fashion sense in your child, be sure to avoid using harsh words such as ridiculous, silly or stupid. Children will take any harsh words and tone to heart. Think of your children as drawing boards with a blank slate. Teach them the basics on fashion and coordinating fashion items.

Most of all have patience as your child learns the basics. There will always be some disasters, but take them in stride and simply reinforce previous lessons.